Now tell me this have you ever felt tired, unmotivated, not really wanting to go on? If so this post is for you. Today we are going to talk about tips to stay motivated. If you are a mom, a working mom, or you just have obligations; these tips might help you out specifically.
First Tip is:
Do not compare your chapter one to someone else’s chapter 10.
I know we’ve all heard it before, “comparison is the thief of all joy”. That is true. When you are looking at where you’re at in life versus where you want to be and someone else is already living that life it can get really demotivating as though you’re never going to get there. If anything learn what they’re doing right so that you can follow behind and do those same things, but do not compare yourself to other people’s progress because that will just put you in a slump. Then you’ll start wondering:
- Why am I not there yet?
- Why haven’t I been promoted?
- Why am I not doing this, why don’t I have the bigger house?
- Why don’t I have the nicer car?
- Why can’t I go eat out a nice steakhouse, or whatever the case may be?
Be happy and be present in your moment.
Second Tip is:
Find your people and find your community. It’s very important that we surround ourselves with people who are aligned with our goals our morals. You know the saying it takes a village to raise a child, well it takes a village to be an adult too. You need a support system. I credit my support system to a lot of my success. Honestly, without my support system I probably wouldn’t be where I’m at today.
It’s finding those people you trust, who have the same mentality as you, and you are all trying to be in the same position. You are the sum of your closest five friends, right? Keep that in mind, you are the sum of your closest five friendships. If you have those one or two people you can call talk to when you’re feeling down and out, talk to them and they won’t judge you. Again, you guys are all part of the same tribe!
I love like some of the connections that I have made over the years. We may not talk every day, but if I’m on social media and a post resonates with me I’ll send it to them. I want to let my tribe know they’re awesome too and I want them to know that! It might seem superficial when looking at it, but really that means a lot because sometimes you just want to know that someone’s thinking about you and you’re doing a great job with what you have to accomplish what you need to accomplish.
Third Tip is:
Wake up early, make a schedule, and get ahead of the process. Have you ever woke up and life happens to you from the time you wake up until the time you go to sleep?!? That is no fun and if you have not experienced that, trust me, you do not want to. If you can get ahead of the day, that will make the day go so much smoother. Or even ahead of the month to plan things out, know what’s coming at you so you can anticipate those events.
Instead of just saying, “oh life is always getting thrown at me, I never have any idea what’s going to happen.” Get ahead of the problem and then go from there!
For me this is just it starts on the day before. We prep the night before by picking out clothes, start packing lunches, and all that great stuff. I get up before the children, like even if it’s 10 or 15 minutes, I try to make it more than that. However, you know again life happens. But I get up before they do. In doing that, I can grab something to drink, brush my teeth, wash my face, and change clothes before them. Then when they wake up they’re not dealing with a frantic mommy because no one wants to deal with that.
Fourth Tip is:
Wherever you are in life at this very moment is temporary, it’s not forever. Sometimes you just gotta suck it up and drive on. Embrace the suck and know that this too shall pass. It is not going to last forever.
- Someone cut you off in traffic- TEMPORARY
- They got your order wrong at Starbucks- TEMPORARY
- Had a fight the night before- TEMPORARY
Fifth Tip is:
This is probably the most important tip, if I’m being honest, for me. Find your why! When you wake up every day, put on your uniform, or you get dressed to go to work, or you’re making breakfast for the kids; why are you doing it? Like honestly, why are you doing it? Tell me why you’re doing it and then that be your reason to keep going. Like I said before, the stress you are in is only temporary. For me I’m doing it because I know, that in a few years I will have the ability to be a stay at home mom. It’s very important for me, that I put in place everything to get me to my overall goal and my why is to be present in my family’s lives. Presence means different things to different people, but at the end of the day find your why!
It can be hard to like juggle work, parenthood, being a friend, life, and side hustles. Don’t let it get to the point where you’re just in a continuous rut and you don’t want to do anything. Pull it all together using these Five Tips:
- Don’t compare yourself
- Find your tribe
- Make a schedule
- Remember that this is only temporary
- Find your why
Bonus: Whatever you do it well and always give yourself Grace
Watch here for details not covered in this blog.